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PDA Support Group - Meeting August 13th

I'm facilitating a free Autism with PDA Adult Support Group, as a PDA North America volunteer. Our first night, we worked together to create a list of suggestions for how to get things done, in spite of the challenges that come with PDA. Our 3rd meeting will be on August 13th. The information is below.

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Finding ways to get things done

Here are some of the group's recommendations :

  • Body Doubling

  • Co-regulation with someone who doesn’t stress you out (human or otherwise)

  • Trick yourself

  • Deadline that isn’t too soft or hard

  • Do it for someone else

  • Teach someone else / feel like the expert

  • Build in rest time (you can feel the pressure building–need to deflate some)

  • Become more forgiving of self

  • Respect your needs

  • Don’t feel like you have to do “it” a certain way

  • Fun way / Non-conventional way

  • Small steps - maybe only a few steps at a time

  • For buy-in, make sure you understanding what has to get done and why

  • Roadmap, know the steps, find your way

  • Learn everything you can about the “thing”

  • Do that "thing" before anyone asks to avoid scrutiny

  • Being perceived is tough (some folks feel that with body doubling and felt that doing it off camera really helped)

  • Do your project without telling anyone…don’t let them ruin it or, have project almost done before sharing it with anyone.

  • Disassociate so you can launch

  • Minimal viable option (no pressure)

  • Momentum is key

  • Stim song/ self soothing

  • Create low demand experiences

If you are a PDAer adult, and would like to join us, we will be getting together monthly through November 2024. Here is the Zoom invitation, dates and times, and our upcoming theme.

Autism with PDA Support Group for Adults with meeting dates and times, Zoom link, and topic

New Book: Navigating PDA in America

For folks wanting to help children, teens and young adults with PDA, there is a new resource. Ruth Fidler and Diane Gould's book, Navigating PDA in America: A Framework to Support Anxious, Demand-Avoidant Autistic Children, Teens, and Young Adults just became available.

The PDA movement in America is in its very early stages and this book should prove to be very helpful toward moving things forward. I especially appreciate Fidler and Gould's PDAer support recommendations that suggest prioritizing emotional well being, keeping the PDAer involved in all discussions and decisions, accepting what is, and preparing the PDA for future autonomy.

Looking to learn more about PDA? Check out these articles: Creating Safety for the PDA Nervous System, PDA Resources, and Managing Your PDA.

If you have questions about PDA, I encourage you to book a free introductory session. We can take a few minutes together discussing PDA (pathological demand avoidance) and determine next steps to help you move in the direction you want.


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